One of my motto’s for years has been Just shut up and do it!
I apply it to most anything I hate doing, am lazy about doing, have tantrums about doing and also, to things I love doing, but procrastinate.
It takes me much longer to think about doing something, than to actually do it.
I can waste days thinking about cleaning up a mess that when tackled, took only five or ten minutes to rectify.
I can let dishes pile up, when really, it only takes maybe twenty minutes to wash.
Sometimes, I admit, I like to torture myself and not do things. I have no idea why, except it feels a thousand times more wonderful when I finally just stop my whining and do it. Sort of like in romantic relationships where making up was worth the breaking up part.
How did we ever go from the molehill (albeit a very serious one) of a pandemic of a deadly disease that we need to protect ourselves against (with social distancing, masks and vaccines) to a mountain, where this temporary situation is somehow going to result in a dystopian brave new world society?
Like holy cow. What the F?
Seriously people, you need to stick to what is really going on and address that. Not let your colourful imaginations take you down bottomless rabbit holes.
We have to surrender freedoms in this case in order to stay alive.
It is not complicated.
We have a zillion rules and regulations which we must abide by to stay healthy. We have building codes so that our dwellings don’t fall down. Automobile laws so we are safe when we drive. Food inspectors so we don’t die eating at a restaurant. We need vaccines to go on vacations to foreign lands. All these things are to protect us.
A lot of rules and regulations we have because people can’t think for themselves, and often prove that they are a lawless mob, quite eager to infringe on the rights of others to get their way.
We have laws to protect ourselves from the lawless. We have to do this.
I’m not going to debate about whether this is right or wrong in the long term. It is what makes our society work right now, until we find something better.
Yes, sometimes we need to question things, but when you do, for God sake, think about what you are questioning.
And it is not all about YOU. Not everyone agrees with you. You don’t speak for everyone, maybe not even a few of us.
I once had this great idea that I could wipe out a memory by revisiting it.
Long story short. It didn’t work.
I had very special memories of Montreal and a man I loved.
So I took the train to Montreal and decided to go back to some of the places that were particularly poignant and just wipe clean the memories. A purge, if you will.
But all it did was depress the hell out of me.
So much for that.
Here is the correct way to deal with such memories: see the good that came from the experiences that gave you those memories.
That love affair taught me so much, and is invaluable to who I am now.
And I still love Montreal.
And I guess, I still love him.