On my way home today, I saw a young man at the bus stop, shirtless, flexing his muscles, then running along side the bus to impress us ladies. Sure he was in good shape, but it is not sexy. It was -9 Celsius today, with a wind. Women look at this guy and think “He’s an idiot.”
Ditto for when I am at the gym. Those guys who peel off their shirt thinking the ladies will swoon at their pecs and six packs, will only get eye rolls from the opposite sex. The guy next to me on the treadmill sweating buckets but fully dressed, who stopped to retrieve my dropped towel, is a million times more sexy because he was kind.
Guys, get this please. We don’t want to see your naked body. Not in full, or even in part. No we don’t want photographs of your parts either. Ew. We are not impressed.
A well dressed man is sexy. A well dressed man with manners more so. A well groomed but maybe not so well dressed man who is intelligent, polite and compassionate is sexy. Think James Bond for the way he dresses or Volodymyr Zelenskyy who is extremely intelligent, has high morals and standards and is compassionate. Sexy off the scale.
But don’t get me wrong. A well dressed, groomed guy who is a jerk is not sexy. As soon as you open your mouth we no longer see the outside anymore.
Men with their shirts off, or worse, with their butt crack showing is not sexy. We may buy calendars of beefcakes but it is because it makes us laugh, not because we are aroused.
Men, work some more on who you are and less on your body.