Us Canadians are often accused of excessive politeness, but I can see no harm in that whatsoever. If anything, the world could use a hefty dose of manners. There is so much mudslinging and rudeness today.
Being rude is a form of violence. People who use it as a weapon are the same ones who cannot tolerate being rudely treated themselves.
It is also highly infectious. If exposed to it too long, everyone is soon rude to everyone else.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could be polite and kind even when we must criticize? Even when we must correct anothers behaviour?
Rudeness is bullying. It definitely does not belong in places of power and authority. It does not belong anywhere in society. Rudeness is a reflection of a persons level of maturity, and a clear indicator of their lack of empathy, compassion and understanding.
We all have been treated rudely at some time in our lives, some of it deliberate, some of it not, and maybe even at times a result of our own bad manners. Did it improve the situation? I doubt it. But when you have been treated with respect, even kindness, how do situations turn out?
Being kind makes you feel good.
Being rude may make an immature bully feel powerful, but it greatly diminishes his stature in other peoples eyes.
I have been bullied by bosses, boyfriends, doctors, sales clerks. All made for memorable experiences, but never made me respect them.
I’ve also had kindness extended to me when I didn’t deserve it. Gratitude when I hadn’t done anything much to warrant it. Strangers who have helped me when I’ve been drowning in troubles.
True heroes are those who know that good wins. They are also likely to refuse your adulation, because being nice is just who they are.